Divorce as Sacred Loss and Desecration: Viewing Uncoupling as a Sacred Injury
Divorce as a Sacred Loss & Desecration = A cognitive appraisal that the divorce involved the loss or violation of something viewed as being a manifestation of God or as having sacred qualities. 3 Top items endorsed by college students about parental divorce were:
"Something that was sacred to me was destroyed” - 32%
"I lost something I thought God wanted for me" - 30%
"Something that gave sacred meaning to my life is now missing” - 29%
-73% of adults who divorced viewed their divorce this way to some degree (one year later 78%)
The more these cognitions occur, the individual experiences a divorce as more traumatic or painful.
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