So now, maybe for the first time ever, you have a roommate. You may have discovered that things you “thought” wouldn’t bother you actually do. This is perfectly normal when living with someone, and so are disagreements about how to manage your shared living space.
If things get out of hand with your roommate, you may want to move out, but space is tight this year, so changing rooms may not be an option. But there are ways to adjust that don’t involve anyone moving:
- Remember that you don’t have to be best friends with your roommate; you just have to be able to live together. One of the key components of living together is communication. Have you tried to talk through the conflict?
- Refer to your roommate agreement and hold each other accountable to it. If it needs to be adjusted, work with your resident advisor (RA) to make the appropriate changes. If you didn’t fill out your roommate agreement, you should make one NOW.
- Recognize that you won’t ever agree 100% on everything. There must be some compromise—from BOTH of you.
- Ask your RA to mediate the conflict. If your RA is unable to help, reach out to your Graduate Hall Director or Hall Director; they should be able to help you work through this.
Quick Tips for Addressing Roommate Conflicts
- Talk early, often and in person; address issues as they arise
- Set reasonable expectations
- Re-visit the roommate agreement often
- Develop a mutual understanding
- Be awared of and contol emotion
Other helpful resources:
Life Roommate Relationship Guide
- 7 Common Rommate Problems and How to Solve Them
10 College Roommate Issues and Solutions
You may not be interacting with others in your life the way you used to. Maybe you have changed -or- maybe they have. Whatever the case, it is important to keep communicating with one another and working on the relationship.
Adjusting to Changes in Other Relationships
One of the best ways to adjust to changes in your relationships is to tell them what you expect from the relationship and LISTEN to their expectations. It is always better to work through any issues before they become problems; tweaking disagreements is easier than repairing something that is broken.
It can be hard transitioning back home after the freedom at college. Here are some tips for a harmonious family time:
- Be aware of possible conflicts ahead of time and be prepared to discuss and negotiate them. (Curfew, Use of the car, phone and internet usage, chores, etc.)
- Be flexible. The transition will not just be difficult for you. Remember you are going back to a house that was used to you not being there; you are not the only one who may have changed.
- Communication is the key. Be sure to speak up right away if you see a conflict coming on. It’s best to address things from the start instead of letting them blow up into a huge argument later.
- Act like the responsible adult that you’ve become. Show the people back home how much you’ve matured by being in college: do your own laundry, clean up after yourself, etc. If you want to be treated like an adult, you’ve got to act like one.
Knowing your student rights and responsibilities.
Are you aware of the rules at BGSU and recognize that there are consequences for not following them? Did you know that you have twice as many rights as you do responsibilities? Are you aware that certain violations of the Student Code of Conduct can impact the jobs you are planning for your future?
If you didn’t read the Student Handbook and the Community Living Standards when the semester started, now is a great time to really dig into them to know what we expect of you and what you can expect from us. Happy Reading!
You're moved in, classes have started and life has begun at BGSU... but you keep thinking about home. Some students feel right at home when they first move-in and others take a little longer to warm up. No matter where you fit into this, how you are feeling is normal.
What is Homesickness?
Most students experience homesickness at some point in their college
career but what is it? Lola Kolade, author of "How
to Deal with Homesickness Freshman Year", describes
it nicely; "More often than not, “people misinterpret what
exactly it means to be homesick. It’s not about missing home—[your]
house, [your] bed. Very often it’s about missing what’s normal and
comfortable, what we’re used to, and not quite being comfortable with
your new way of life.” At its core, homesickness is a longing for the
Did you know that staying on campus during the weekends can increase your grades, your involvement and your likelihood of graduating? Even if these facts don't make you feel warm and fuzzy inside, hopefully it helps you focus on overcoming your homesickness. It is perfectly normal to miss home, but you can get through it.
Here are some tips that can help:
- Get to know the BGSU campus and the surrounding community.
Soon enough BG will start feeling like your home.
- Talk to a friend or relative who has also gone away from home
before, chances are they have been where you are and they will have
some tips to help you of their own.
- Research student
organizations that you might be interested in joining. There are
over 300 student organizations, chances are there is one just right
for you. Learn
- Utilize the Student
Recreation Center for more exercise.
- Plan a home visit. Going home all the time will work against you but, scheduling a home visit a few weeks from now can give you something positive to look forward to when you are feeling down.
- Invite friends and family to come visit you until you feel
Other helpful resources:
One of the most important keys to academic success is starting strong. BGSU has a lot of resources to help you start strong and prevent academic stress later on in the semester.
- Residential Academic Resource Center (RARC) | Each traditional Residence Hall has an RARC staffed with Academic Peer Mentors who can assist with understanding your syllabus and Canvas; with time management, organization, note taking and library research skills; and with course registration. Please note: Apartment students should use the Falcon Heights RARC and Greek Village should use the Conklin RARC.
- Learning Commons | In the Library, there is the Learning Commons which provides writing consultation and tutoring for a number of classes. (But hurry—individual appointments fill up FAST.) They also provide academic coaching and supplemental instruction.
- Go to your instructor's office hours | Your professors and instructors may be among your most valuable resources. Go to their office hours! Another great reasource is your Academic Advisor. Login to your MyBGSU account and click on "My Advisor" to learn how to connect with them.
Brush up on your Study Skills |
College can prove to be much more difficult than high school, no
matter how tough your work load was. The Learning Commons has
provided some helpful reasources to help you enhance your study skills here.
- Ask your Residence Advisor (RA) | Still not sure where to turn? Your RA is a great resource to ask questions and help guide you to the information you need. They have been where you are now and are always happy help.