Support Resources

How to Support Someone  

Supporting a friend through an incident can be challenging, but with the help of this page you can find out what to do and what not to do in your interactions in providing your friend support.

Your friendship may change through their healing process and there is no one correct way to support your friend. It is important to listen to what they need from you and to be patient. You should strive to remain approachable, and sensitive to their feelings. You may want to discuss the impact of the incident on your relationship and if you wish you may consider relationship counseling if things get too challenging.

Do

  • Believe them and show them unconditional acceptance. Others may question the validity of their report, so they need you to support them. 
  • Encourage your loved one to seek professional help. Give them the option to choose the help that they want by sharing all the resources available to them both on and off campus.
  • Communicate to your loved one that the incident was not their fault and that you do not equate the incident with an act of infidelity or immorality.
  • Follow up with your friend regularly if they are considering suicide or harming themselves. Ask others for help and advice (counselor, resident advisor, professors, etc.). Call 9-1-1 if there is an emergency or if you are concerned for their safety.
  • Let your friend be in control of who knows about the incident.
  • Take care of yourself. Do not forget that this can be challenging for you to handle as well and that there are resources available on and off campus to support you too.

Don’t

  • Touch your friend without asking for their permission first, even if you are trying console them. They may be triggered by having someone else touch them. 
  • Attempt to contact the Respondent. It is a common reaction to want to seek revenge; however, calm and reasoned judgments are needed. This may cause legal problems and increase your friend's fears and anxiety. 
  • “Take charge.” Your friend must regain a sense of control over their life and should be encouraged to make their own decisions. 
  • Accuse or judge your friend in any way. How they feel needs to be your primary concern. 
  • Direct your feelings of anger and frustration (common reactions) towards your friend. 
  • Expect or demand immediate and open communication about what happened or how your friend feels until they are ready to share with you what happened.
  • BGSU Counseling Center
    • Phone: 419-372-2081
    • 104 College Park,
    • Bowling Green, OH 43402
  • Office of the Dean of Students
    • Phone: 419-372-2843
    • Fax: 419-372-0499
    • 301 Bowen-Thompson Student Union
    • Bowling Green, OH 43403
  • BGSU Campus Police
    • Phone: 419-372-2346 or 911
    • 100 College Park
    • Bowling Green, OH 43403
  • Center for Women and Gender Equity
    • Phone: 419-372-7227
    • 280 Hayes Hall
    • Bowling Green, OH 43403
    • cwge@bgsu.edu
  • LGBTQ+ Resource Center
    • Phone: 419-372-2642
    • Fax: 419-372-2124
    • 427 Bowen Thompson Student Union
    • Bowling Green, Ohio 43403
  • Behavioral Connections
    • 419-352-5387
    • 419-872-2419
    • 280 S. Main St.
    • Bowling Green
  • The Cocoon
    • 419-373-1730
    • Physical address is unpublished to protect privacy of residences
    • cocoon@cocoonshelter.org
  • Law Enforcement 
    • City of Bowling Green Police
    • 419-352-2571 (non-emergency line)
    • 175 W. Wooster Street
    • Bowling Green, OH 43402
  • Wood County Sheriff's Department
    • 419-354-9137 (non-emergency line)
  • Erie County Sheriff's Department
    • 419-625-7951(non-emergency line)
  • Legal Assistance
    • Wood County Prosecutor’s Office
    • 419-354-9250
    • One Courthouse Square
    • Bowling Green, Ohio 43402
  • Bowling Green City Prosecutor
    • 419-354-6285
    • 711 Dunbridge Road
    • Bowling Green, Ohio 43402
    • bgprosecutor@bgohio.org
  • National Suicide Prevention Hotline
    • 1-800-273-8255
  • NAMI Wood County
    • 419-352-0626
    • 541 W. Wooster St., 2nd Floor
    • Bowling Green, Ohio 43402
    • info@namiwoodcounty.org
  • Wood County Hospital
    • 419-354-8900
    • 950 W. Wooster St.
    • Bowling Green, OH 43402
    • info@woodcountyhospital.org
  • Counseling Center 
    • (419) 372-2081
  • The Cocoon
    • (419) 373-1730
  • Falcon Health Center
    • (419) 372-2271
  • Wood County Crisis Line
    • (419) 502-HOPE (4673)
  • Psychological Services Center
    • (419) 372-2540
  • Wellness Connection
    • (419) 372-WELL (9355)
  • Wood County Hospital
    • (419) 354-8900

Thank you for taking the time to help make BGSU an inclusive, caring, and safe community. We understand your lives are tremendously busy and we appreciate your willingness to help us improve the quality of the educational experience of our students.

Classroom Ideas

Consider incorporating lessons, assignments, and extra credit that enable students to learn about discrimination and harassment, including sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, and stalking. The following list is by no means exhaustive, but provides ideas for possible lessons, assignments and extra credit:

  • Students write a paper or project related to the topics of harassment, discrimination, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, gender equity, bystander intervention, Title IX, etc.
  • Students read an article or other reading related to the topics of harassment, discrimination, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, gender equity, bystander intervention, Title IX, etc. 
  • Students attend an event or program such as SafeZone, Trans 101, Take Back the Night
  • Invite the Title IX Office to your classroom to present to and engage with students
  • Present or invite a guest speaker to present on topics related to harassment, discrimination, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, gender equity, bystander intervention, Title IX, etc.
  • Show a documentary or movie related to harassment, discrimination, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, gender equity, bystander intervention, Title IX, etc.
  • Encourage students to participate in Sexual Assault Awareness Month activities 
  • Encourage students to watch online Title IX training

Program and Event Ideas

Consider participating in and hosting programs and events for staff and students that enable them to learn about discrimination and harassment, including sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, and stalking. The following list is by no means exhaustive, but provides ideas for possible programs and events:

  • Participate in mandatory Title IX training for faculty and staff
  • Attend a SafeZone or Trans 101 training
  • Host a SafeZone or Trans 101 training for your department or student group
  • Invite the Title IX Office to your department, student organization meeting, or other events to present to and engage with staff and students
  • Present or invite a guest speaker to present on topics related to harassment, discrimination, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, gender equity, bystander intervention, Title IX, etc.
  • Lead an activity related to the topics of harassment, discrimination, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, gender equity, bystander intervention, Title IX, etc.
  • Participate in and encourage others to participate in Sexual Assault Awareness Month activities
  • View or host a viewing of a documentary or movie related to harassment, discrimination, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, gender equity, bystander intervention, Title IX, etc.

Example Syllabus Statements

Bowling Green State University (BGSU) is committed to providing a safe learning environment for all students that is free of all forms of discrimination and harassment, including sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, and stalking. 

Please be aware all BGSU faculty members are “mandatory reporters,” which means that if you tell me about a situation involving sexual harassment, sexual assault, dating violence, domestic violence, or stalking, I must share that information with the Title IX Coordinator. If you or someone you know has been impacted by sexual harassment, sexual assault, dating or domestic violence, or stalking, BGSU has staff members trained to support you. 

Although I have an obligation to report, you will, in most cases, control how your case will be handled. When working with the Office of the Dean of Students and/or Title IX Office you will have access to resources, but also have the opportunity to express if you wish to move forward with an investigation. Our goal is to make sure you are aware of the options available to you as a BGSU student.

If you wish to speak to a confidential resource, you can contact any of the following on-campus and local resources:

  • Counseling Center (confidential) – (419) 372-2081
  • The Cocoon (confidential) – (419) 373-1730
  • Falcon Health Center (confidential) – (419) 372-2271
  • Wood County Crisis Line (confidential) – (419) 502-HOPE (4673)
  • Psychological Services Center (confidential) – (419) 372-2540
  • Wellness Connection – (419) 372-WELL (9355) 
  • Wood County Hospital – (419) 354-8900

Abbreviated Statement Option 1

Bowling Green State University (BGSU) is committed to providing a safe learning environment for all students that is free of all forms of discrimination and harassment.  Sexual misconduct and relationship violence in any form are antithetical to the university’s mission and core values, violate university policies, and may also violate federal and state law. Faculty members are considered “Mandatory Reporters” and are required to report incidents of sexual misconduct and relationship violence to the Title IX Coordinator.  If you or someone you know has been impacted by sexual harassment, sexual assault, dating or domestic violence, or stalking, please visit www.bgsu.edu/TitleIX to access information about university support and resources.    

Abbreviated Statement Option 2

I am a mandatory reporter at BGSU, which means I am not a confidential resource. Therefore, I am required to report any information that I am aware that may violate the Sexual Misconduct and Relationship Violence Policy. If you would like to speak with someone confidentially, please contact the Counseling, Psychological Services, or Falcon Health. Other resources include, The Cocoon, the Violence Prevention Center, and Unison. Otherwise, if you would like to report an incident involving a possible violation of BGSU’s Sexual Misconduct and Relationship Violence Policy, please contact our Title IX Coordinator at 419-372-8476. 

Classroom Environment, Language, and Behavior Expectations

In order to promote an inclusive and constructive learning environment, demeaning, marginalizing, and otherwise negative language and behavior will not be tolerated in the classroom. Respect and courtesy toward the instructor, classmates, and classroom guests are expected. Language and behaviors that are disruptive, abusive, or harassing may result in disciplinary action as specified by the Student Code of Conduct.